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A little about me.....
I just wanted to give everyone a little background Info on me:
I am a 40 years old. I am divorced. I am a father of 3 wonderful children. I live just outside of Washington, DC in Virginia. I have been in this area since 1996. Before that, I was born and raised just outside of Buffalo, NY.
I have been separated/divorced for 8 years. Although many people have a hard time beleiving that. My X still feels that she can still call me for things like: Her cat Swallowed a peice of string, My son needs to get a hair cut the next time he is with me, to complaing about a guy she is dating, can I feed her cats, take in her mail and water the plants in her house when she is on vacation,etc. (if I don't answer the phone or tell her that the problems she has with her BF are her own or tell her no i won't feed the cats or change her lightbulbs for her She goes ballistic)
I could go on about the totally disfunctional relationship that she and I have but I won't. At least not in a public forum.
Over the past several years, I have really let myself ride the ups and downs of depression and the problems I have had with ADHD. (I was not diagnosed until i was in couples counseling with my now X-wife). I have tried to do the BFL program several times with very little sucess. Mainly because of 3 things, Lack of Planning, Lack of commitment, and just plain old laziness.
Currently, I am dating a wonderful woman (and have been for the past 2 years), we have had our ups and down and the odd relationship that I have with my X can really take a toll on us.
Recently, I have noticed that I have been tired all the time. I cannot focus at work. I procrastinate on cleaning my apartment and then it gets to a point where it is overwhelming and I don't know where to start. That kind of feels like where I am at with my health right now. Over whelmed and not sure where to start. I live on the 3rd floor. When I walk the steps up, I am really puffing when I get to the top. I don't have teh energy to be a good dad. I am content with sitting around the house instead of getting outside with the kids. Now that Summer is here, I would like to get out to the pool with them more often and when I do, just don't sit there in the lounger....enjoy them while they are young.
Anyway, I have rambled on enough for now.
Hey - You can do this - welcome and we are here whenever you need - just ask - Jaki :)
So glad you are here - I think you will really grow with this transformation website Welcome!
hey man, i really want you to know how much a appreciate your honesty. you are in such an incredible position! you know why???? because your capacity to change is so HUGE because of where you are right now. i believe in you, i KNOW that you can do this, we're all here on this site together to help and support each other. i have a tool for you to use that i think will really help to mold your perspectives and opinions about your life. get out that BFL book and read again about the Law of Reciprocation. then find some way to put it into action just ONE time within the next week. i GUARANTEE it will make you feel like a million bucks!!!! and your motivation will start to grow. in fact, if you want, go to my site and read the blog that i wrote about it.... i think you'll see what i mean. we're here for you, and i want you to know that you have people here who will walk through this transformation with you. -jeremy
K- This is your chance...right here, right now. It is no mistake that you are here! Set goals, enter the challenge and commit to it! I have found that praying for my ex-husband gives me more patience with him...and some days, I need a LOT! All the best! Amy
Well my friend! If you accepted Bills Challenge and you really focus on doing it this time...that will all change! I promise you! You won't be tired all the time you will have energy to spare. You will gain some self respect and self confidence and maybe (hopefully) make some changes to that dysfunctional relationship with your ex and stop letting her pull your strings like a puppet! Don't fail to plan this time! Find a sense of commitment and tell yourself that YOU deserve to look better, to feel better!!! QUIT being lazy! Life is so short don't waste anymore time thinking about what you KNOW you should do! JUST DO IT! Come on! Are ya with me????
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