Bill Phillip's | Transformation

Fathers are …

A daughters first Love.

A daughter identifies easily with her mother, but you are a mystery to her. You are her first love, so the early years of your relationship with her are crucial. The love you give her is her starting point. Everyman who enters her life will be compared to you; every relationship she has with a man will be filtered through her relationship with you. If you have a good relationship, she will choose boyfriends who will treat her well. If she sees you as open and warm, she will be confident with other men. If you are cold and unaffectionate, she’ll find it hard to express love in a healthy way.

Words. When she talks, she wants you to respond. She needs to hear your words. Girls who are seven years old might be satisfied with “I love you”. Girls who are seventeen will want an explanation. She genuinely wants to know. So be ready!

Fences. When she is two years old, you define your daughter’s territory. As she grows older you take some fences down or move them back. You give her latitude to roam, but she is always under guard. When she is thirteen or so, some fences need to be reinforced. She may try to break them. You can’t let her do that, because she is still a kid. And because boundaries make her feel loved.

Silence. Listening is tough, particularly when the words don’t make sense and the ideas seem superfluous. But listen anyway. Sit down. Look her in the eye. Don’t let your mind wander. And you will be rewarded with a daughter’s trust, love, and affection.

Time. Being a father means giving up your time without resentment. Spending time with your daughter shouldn’t be full of pressure, because she does not need you to do anything; she only needs to be with you. So don’t worry about finding activities to entertain her. All she wants is your attention on a regular basis.

Will. If human love does not carry a man beyond himself, it is not love. If love is always discreet, always wise, always sensible and calculating, never carried beyond itself, it is not love at all. It may be affection, it may be warmth of feeling, but it has not the true nature of love in it. Love is voluntary. Your daughter cannot make you love her or think she is wonderful. She would do that if she could, but she can’t. How you love her and when you show it, is within your control. Most parents pull away from their teenage daughters, assuming they need more space and freedom. Actually, your teenage daughter needs you more than ever. So stick with her. If you do not, she’ll wonder why you left her.

Eating disorders are at an epidemic level in our country. These include anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, binge eating, and obesity. The common element in each is an obsession of food: either to restrict it, get rid of it, or indulge in it. The chances are excellent that you daughter will fall into one of these categories before she graduates high school. So what can you do to prevent this from happening?

My plan is to live, breath and eat Bill’s Right Recipe. This is a way of eating that puts an end to nonsense like dieting, deprivation, and fads.  The Right Recipe is a plan that can help you loose body fat, increase your energy, strengthen your muscles, and also nourish your mind as well. My daughter watches me like a hawk. Only time will tell if my plan will work. I believe it will!