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On Letting Go......
On Monday we let go of our Lily...we had her from two weeks after she was born, picked her up from the hospital until two weeks prior to her first birthday. So I am learning about letting go...the question is once you let go, how do you know when to pick up again? How do I cope with letting go of the anger? There is a small tiny voice telling me that there is some plan, some reason and purpose to this. I just need it to get louder and more dominant to my conscience. I know that a big part of this journey of transformation was for her, to be a healthy fun, active parent...
I took a few days off of everything and we left for Atlantic City to just to lay on the beach, to cry, to figure out what to do next and to help heal. I heard myself telling my partner that we have to get out of bed and just for now put one foot in front of the other until we figure out what to do next.
I am still committed to the transformation. I got to go run on the boardwalk and along the beach. I LOVE being at the ocean...it reminds you that you are just part of the bigger universe. That there is a cycle to life like the tide coming and going. That you are a part of that cycle.
I'll be posting more after the holidays...just taking some time to let go, heal and put one foot in front of the other.






I am so sorry, Sue! I have been praying for you & your partner. And Lily! -Angela
My heart and prayers are with you. I worked many years with newborns that needed to spend weeks sometimes months in the hospital before they could go home. You would of course get attached to the babies. They were "ours" not really the parent's until after they went home. We also got to know the babies' families. And yes, we could be very judgemental about families and into what type of environment "our" babies were going home. There has been many times when we would get so upset or cry for a baby because we knew the start in life the were probably going to have going home with their "real" family or a "normal" family or becoming wards of the state. I had asked some questions about one of our babies, a little girl. At that time I had three boys. She could have been the little "Emily" that I had always wanted. I had went to and was there at her delivery, and I had been her nurse every shift I had worked, including overtime, since the day she was born, about 6 weeks. Her mother had only been back to see her once since she was born. Her mother (The grandmother) was already raising two of her daughters children. The mother heard something about a nurse trying to steal her baby and came to the hospital threatening all kinds of things. I never got THAT attached to another baby in my care again. But I opened my eyes, mind, and heart wider after that. What you are going through with Lily is much greater. I can so relate to the fact that your pain and suffering is exactly the same as any other mother's. And how your family would have been as loving, as giving, and enriching as any other because that was the type family you were for almost a year. I will join you in your prayers that Lily is going to get all the love and support and everything else that she needs from her new family. And my prayers and thoughts are with you and your partner as you go through this grieving and healing process. David
I am so sorry...all I have to offer are prayers for you...that God would wrap His arms around you and simply give you peace...I am so very sorry...(((HUGS))) Tammy
"There is a small tiny voice telling me that there is some plan, some reason and purpose to this. I just need it to get louder and more dominant to my conscience." --------- It's not always easy to remember this. My prayers are with you during this difficult time as the little voice becomes bigger. Praying for strength to get you through the pain of your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you during this time.....Thia
I saddened to hear of your loss and certainly have compassion for the emotional tidal wave that seems to have consumed your life right now. We let go because to harbor anger, sadness, how does that serve us? How can we help others in this state? Absolutely grieve as long as you need to. It sounds like there are others involved who have a purpose, a lesson they need to learn as well. As your heart breaks, open a little space for acceptance of the grander plan, whatever it is, whether we agree with some things or not, it's meant to happen they way it unfolds. Cyber hugs to you. ~S~
What a beautiful post/blog. It touches the heart tremendously. I am sorry you and your family are going through pain, I can't even imagine. You are in my prayers and so is beautiful little Lily. Love and Blessings to you and yours...
I am so sorry. We had the same thing happen in our family, 8 years ago,so if you need to talk, I am here. We all have to heal in our own way. I believe in heaven, so we have a very special angel, it still hurts. Hugs help. I will pray for you.
I know this loss is incredibly difficult for you and you partner. Stay strong in your dreams of adoption. Take time to heal and this radio show tonight might be just what you need to help in the healing process. Hugs- Kat
Oh my goodness... my heart goes out to you as you work through your grief right now.... much love to you and your family.
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