Roseann, what a beautiful vision you have for your future! We're at about the same weight and although your goal is a bit loftier than mine, I am confident we can both get there!! Let's go girl! Heard BIll say recently that he hears people say that Transformation is sooo hard but he asks us to think about how easy is it really to be tired and lethargic all the time. I like this kind of hard - it brings far more rewards that dragging my arse through life with no energy!

Holli, do you see the similar themes in many of our Base statements/ current conditions. So many of our issues stem from a lack of self-love and acceptance. I assure you if you stay the course and borrow the beliefs of others in you until you can believe in yourself, at the end of 18 weeks, you WILL embrace all of who you are and you WILL be able to look into your eyes in the mirror and declare an acceptance and love for yourself. I look forward to watching it happen for you!

For the record ladies, you are BEAUTIFUL! You are WORTHY! I BELIEVE IN YOU!

I posted a link here, but guess it didn't work (thanks for letting me know, Carin).

So I copy and pasted:

Step 1: The Base and the Summit

Self-Assessment and Awareness

The following self-inquiries help you see where you are now. Identifying your most truthful answers requires some
soul searching and introspection. Take your time, review the example, and then proceed to complete this action
step.

Heart and Soul

Having looked inward to do some soul-searching, three heartfelt reasons for making the decision to transform my
health and life are:

1. I want a long, healthy life
2. I want more energy and endurance
3. I want to set a good example for others, including my teenage son

Emotions

In recent days and weeks, the three most predominant inner feelings I have been experiencing are:

1. I'm getting older, I need to take better care of myself
2. Embarrassment at how I look and that I have gained weight back. The clothes I bought last year are now tight
again and look bad on me.
3. Concern about the effects of drinking on my body and mind; calories keeping me from my weight loss goals;
not being able to think cleary if too much alcohol is consumed.

Mindset

Three patterns of thinking or beliefs which may have limited my ability to change in the past are:

1. I'm fine the way I am; take me or leave me
2. It will be too hard to do, now that I'm almost 50 years old; (take too long, etc.).
3. I enjoy the foods I'm eating, even if they aren't healthy choices.

Body

Three objectively verifiable statements which reflect my physical condition right now are:

1. My weight first thing in the morning, on Jan. 19, 2011, was 185.6 pounds.
2. My present physical condition is evident in my before photo.
3. My waist measurment is now 41 inches

Before Photo Side Photo Back Photo

LOOKING FORWARD 18 WEEKS

And now it’s time for a really fun part of this assignment. I need you to look forward to a point 18 weeks from now
and envision what you want the results of your transformation to be. Again, to help guide you I’ve got a set of
self-inquiries.

Heart and Soul

Looking forward, 18 weeks from now, three changes I will have made that show I’m more aligned with what’s
important to me at a heart and soul level are:

1. I will be setting a healthy example for my loved ones so they can see that they have it in their power to
become healthy, too.
2. Exercising and eating healthy have given me more energy during the day and more restful sleep at night.
3. I feel good getting smaller clothes out of my closet, putting them on and looking great in them, which allows
me to feel more comfortable and at ease in social situations.

Emotions

Looking forward, 18 weeks from now, the three most predominant inner feelings which describe what I’ll be
experiencing are:

1. I'm experiencing joy at being able to get in a good workout without using my asthma inhaler.
2. I'm experiencing satisfaction at being able to be an accomplished belly dancer who feels proud on the inside
and looks sexy on the outside. I won't be embarrassed to expose my tummy any more.
3. I'm confident and happy that I can do yoga moves without my own body getting in my way.

Mindset

Three new patterns of thinking or beliefs which expand my ability to make healthy changes for the better will be:

1. I'll prove that one can still have fun without smoking and drinking. Fun is hiking, snowshoeing, swimming and
other activities that I can now participate in with my friends and family.
2. I'll show that misperceptions can be overcome. By overcoming my misperceptions about myself (that I can't
stop drinking, smoking, eating unhealthy), I have realized my true abilities within myself to become a healthy
person, inside and out!
3. I'll show that it is possible to get up really early and get that workout in first thing in the morning.

Body

Three objectively verifiable statements which will describe the new and improved condition of my body 18 weeks
from now are:

1. By the end of 18 weeks, I will be 36 pounds lighter. My weight first thing in the morning will be 149 pounds. My
waist measurement will be 30 inches.
2. My blood pressure will be normal without blood pressure medication. My asthma will be under control with
minimal medication.
3. My after photo will show that my body will look much healthier than it did before. There will be less bodyfat,
firmer muscles, and a proud and tall posture. My smile will radiate the happiness inside of me.

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Heart and Soul

Having looked inward to do some soul-searching, three heartfelt reasons for making the decision to transform my
health and life are:

1. I want to be active with my kids.
2. I want to be an example to my husband who is a heart patient and obese, lacking energy and has somewhat
given up on living life. I have to lead in joyful living.
3. I am going to Belgium in July and I am going to look and feel great!

Emotions

In recent days and weeks, the three most predominant inner feelings I have been experiencing are:

1. Diabetes scares me and now my mom has been diagnosed with it along with my brother. I don't want it for me
or for my husband and children.
2. I'm out of shape and experiencing aches and pains - I'm to young to be having so much muscular pain.
3. I am concerned about my weight and health and embarrassed about how I look.

Mindset

Three patterns of thinking or beliefs which may have limited my ability to change in the past are:

1. But I don't like vegetables without butter...
2. I don't like denying myself - I'm selfish!
3. Other people can eat this junk food and look fine, I should be able to also.

Body

Three objectively verifiable statements which reflect my physical condition right now are:

1. My weight, first thing in the morning is 237lbs. That is more that most men weigh.
2. I have HUGE saddle bags that I hate. My upper thigh measures 32" EACH.

3. My midsection is 53". I need help.

LOOKING FORWARD 18 WEEKS

And now it’s time for a really fun part of this assignment. I need you to look forward to a point 18 weeks from now
and envision what you want the results of your transformation to be. Again, to help guide you I’ve got a set of
self-inquiries.

Heart and Soul

Looking forward, 18 weeks from now, three changes I will have made that show I’m more aligned with what’s
important to me at a heart and soul level are:

1. I will be active with my kids by riding bikes with them.
2. I will be an example to my husband who is a heart patient and obese, lacking energy and has somewhat given
up on living life. I will be leading our family in joyful living.
3. I am going to Belgium in July and I am going to look and feel great!

Emotions

Looking forward, 18 weeks from now, the three most predominant inner feelings which describe what I’ll be
experiencing are:

1. Diabetes will not be a threat to me and I will start pulling my husband away from the threat.
2. I'll have fewer aches and pains and my body will respond better to excertion.
3. I'm going to feel good about how I look and continue the journey until I reach my goal.

Mindset

Three new patterns of thinking or beliefs which expand my ability to make healthy changes for the better will be:

1. I will learn self-discipline because my results will motivate me.
2. Vegetables can taste great with the right flavorings.

3. I am not other people (and those "other" people are probably hiding flabby bodies under their clothes, too)

Body

Three objectively verifiable statements which will describe the new and improved condition of my body 18 weeks from now are:

1. I will lose 8% body fat!
2. I will be 40 lbs lighter and so much stronger.

3. My saddles bags will decrease at least 2 inches each.

I can not wait to see all of you in 18 weeks -

rockin your new bods, bigger smiles and expanding hearts!!

WOO HOO to ALL OF YOUUU!!!
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Kym, I can already see you in Belgium - feeling free and looking beautiful, confident and loving yourself! You hubby will be admiring the new you and desiring change for himself!! Exciting isn't it??

Stacey, have you met ALLABOUTFAITH? He's providing many members here with their concerns about alcohol consumption and may be a very helpful resource to you. A couple other members to reach out to are ChrisWinters and RobertCan. Chris Rile's wife Jenn is another awesome resource!! Congrats to you on your powerful Action Step 1 work - I sense this is it for you - I can feel how much you want it and I am confident that with the support of this group, your commitment to do the work consistently, you WILL achieve your goals!!

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Originally Posted by carin I can not wait to see all of you in 18 weeks - rockin your new bods, bigger smiles and expanding hearts!! WOO HOO to ALL OF YOUUU!!! ] Kym, I can already see you in Belgium - feeling free and looking beautiful, confident and loving yourself! You hubby will be admiring the new you and desiring change for himself!! Exciting isn't it?? Stacey, have you met ALLABOUTFAITH? He's providing many members here with their concerns about alcohol consumption and may be a very helpful resource to you. A couple other members to reach out to are ChrisWinters and RobertCan. Chris Rile's wife Jenn is another awesome resource!! Congrats to you on your powerful Action Step 1 work - I sense this is it for you - I can feel how much you want it and I am confident that with the support of this group, your commitment to do the work consistently, you WILL achieve your goals!!

Thank you, Carin! I do want it! I'm off soon to the grocery store to get food for the EFL recipes. I have not had a cigarette or a drink since last Saturday. Tomorrow is my free day for the Packer - Bears playoff game. I am limiting myself to 2 beers or glasses of wine (no mixed drinks or free Packer shots) and no cigs. I'm feeling strong right now and know I can do this. What Bill wrote about misperceptions and our true abilities really hit home with me. That is what I keep playing over in my head when I feel tempted. I live within walking distance of a 24 hour Walgreens, which makes it so easy to buy cigs, wine, candy, snacks, pizza, etc. I have only been there once this week and that was to pick up a perscription. This is also saving me some money. I am using that extra money to work out a third day with my trainer. Have a great weekend and GO PACK!

Where I am:

Heart and Soul:

1. I’ve worried about everyone else and ignored myself and have yo-yo dieted and worked out and let myself go. I'm ready to re-make myself all over and enjoy the people in my life.

2. I am tired of being 'thick-bodied' and have minimal endurance. It's very frustrating and I'm looking forward to being healthy, athletic, in great shape and able to do absolutely anything!

3. I have very little pride in myself, to where I put up a shell around others because I know I'm not the best I can be. I'm tired of living defensively and negatively and look forward to truly being the very best I can be!


Emotions:

1. Worry about the potential impending changes due to my poor condition such as diabetes (which runs in my family anyway) and joint issues due to overweight.

2. Embarrassed and humiliated about my condition, to the point that I don’t get out and do things like I used to -- I tend to be withdrawn about social opportunities because I'm aware I look horrible, especially around people who knew me in better days. And there is no one else to blame but myself.

3. Disappointed in myself for letting myself get to this point -- I was athletic and in shape when I was younger and I certainly know better, now I am telling my teenage daughter and son to take care of themselves now, and I watch them eating and not working about and it tears me up to know what they are setting themselves up for.


Mindset:


1. I keep thinking that I don't have time to eat or shop healthy, or to exercise, yet I know this is not true.

2. I have a niggling feeling that now that I am 50 it will be incredibly difficult to get back to great condition.

3. Sometimes I just feel like throwing in the towel and saying 'Forget it! -- I've tried to diet in the last year and I just cannot stick with it.

Body:

1. My weight first thing in the morning was 294.8 pounds. My abdominal across belly button) measurement was 46 inches, my hips 54 inches, and my upper arm 18.5 inches.

2. My blood pressure is 149-90 without medication and 118/78 on Lisinopril, which I hate taking.

3. My physical condition is evident in my “before” photos, and I do not have much endurance or strength, and I feel bloated and ‘thick’. None of my clothes look the way I want.

Where I'm Heading to:

Heart and Soul

1. By making the time to take care of myself, I will have more positive energy and strength to share with others.

2. I will be lighter, healthier, and able to enjoy life to the fullest!

3. I will feel great about myself and the changes I’ve made and enjoy being amongst people again.

Emotions

1. I will feel confident that I am doing everything I can and my blood pressure will be returning to the excellent levels I previously had AND I will be closer to getting off Lisinopril!

2. I will feel good about where I’m at and will have my confidence back!

3. I will be motivated to keep myself moving forward and helping my family Transform themselves – they all want me to do this and I believe it will help them to realize what they can be as well!


Mindset

1. I will believe that I am worth the time to exercise and make healthy meals for myself and my family.

2. I will understand that although age and hormonal changes may affect my rate of physical improvement, that all things are possible and I will be determined to stay the course.

3. I will know that I was successful finally and forever in transforming my health and my mindset about myself and be eager to help others make the same changes.


Body

1. My morning weight will be 258 pounds, or an average reduction of 2 pounds per week. My abdominal measurement will be down to 40 inches, my hips to 50 inches, and my upper arm to 16 inches.

2. My blood pressure will be at 110/80 on medication and my doctor and I will be talking about reducing or eliminating my medication.

3. My endurance will have increased greatly so I can enjoy hiking with my family again and my strength will have increased considerably so that lifting things and doing everyday work is no longer difficult.

Having looked inward, three heartfelt reasons for making the decision to transform my health and my life are:
1. I want to be healthy and feel good about myself.
2. I want to change my addictive behaviors to bad foods and binge eating into good behaviors. Very unhealthy obsession with all food.
3. I want to set a good example for my sister who has her own struggles with food and weight.

In recent days and weeks, the three most predominant inner feelings I have been experiencing are:
1. Disappointment in myself- No matter what I set out to do I always set out with such enthusiasm but after only a few short weeks I give up for one reason or another, mainly pure laziness.
2. Disgust with my eating habits and my constant excuses for not doing this. I motivate so many friends and family but I can't seem to do it for me.
3. Besides those 2 great words I do also feel HOPE. Hope for my future and the endless possibilities I know are just a reach away.

Three patterns of thinking or beliefs which may have limited my ability to change in the past are:
1. I was born into a great big family of Italian eaters! "Eat, Eat" was all I ever heard. So I guess I never changed that way of thinking saying this is what I was growing up so this is what I must be as an adult! Not so anymore....read "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz Amazing book about breaking old agreements made with ourselves and creating new ones that are good for you. I have to work at this every day.
2. Afraid of failure. I am always saying I am just in a rut, well I finally realized how often I say that. I never take that big leap because in the past I have always said out loud what my intentions were and then when I didn't succeed, EVERYONE knew and I was always feeling shame or embarrassment. So me being here on this site is putting myself at risk again but with this support I won't be able to get going and stay focused. Catch 22.
3. PURE LAZINESS... nothing else need be said about this one. Just needed to admit that one out loud!

Three objectively verifiable statements which reflect my physical condition right now are:

1. Weight= 159lbs, Body Fat= 33%
2. Always feel tired and sluggish and unmotivated.
3. I worry constantly about my health but I don't do anything about it. I an 44 going thru menopause and trying to deal with all of its drawbacks and side effects like depression, insomnia, fat around my mid section, mood swings and irritability.

Very unsure about posting pics...yikes.... I know everyone does it but ....OMG I need to do this. OK ok ( conversation with self) : ) will post shortly.
SO here they are: Not sure why they are links and not the actual photo...
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http://www.transformation.com/viewPh...p?fileID=84654

Looking forward, 18 weeks from now, three changes I will have made that show I'm more aligned with what's important to me at a heart and soul level are:
1. I am no longer my own worst enemy. Forgiving myself along the way.
2. I have lost 30lbs, am leaner, and healthier than ever. Good physical health makes for good mental health.
3. I choose action instead of words. "You must be the change you seek in the world" -Ghandi

Looking forward 18 weeks from now, the three most predominant inner feelings which describe what I will be experiencing are:
1. PRIDE at accomplishing what I set out to do.
2. Feeling positive and happy for no reason.
3. Overall feeling of Joy from feeling good inside and out and also knowing that there is always more to learn.

Three new patterns of thinking or beliefs which expand my ability to make healthy changes for the better will be:
1. Eating 6 smaller meals to curb hunger and calorie intake and to just take the time this preparation requires with being annoyed. No more binge eating and eating late night pints of ice cream.
2. Added exercise to my life and can't live without it now. I used to hate it and resent doing it because I was so bored.
3. Learned to control portions. No more big fat unhealthy Italian family portions for me.

Three Objectively verifiable statements which will describe the new and improved condition of my body 18 weeks from now are:
1. Leaner, toner, healthier. Weight at 130, body fat at 23%.
2. Look and feel great in my clothes, more comfortable and confident.
3. You can look into my eyes and see the happiness and joy I feel for doing this and the love I feel toward this community for helping me every step of the way with no judgement.

Hi Everyone...
Just wanted to say how lucky I feel to have you guys to share this with. I wish you all the best in your transformation!! Step 1 done and tomm begins the exercise and the eating right!
Peace

Heart and Soul:

1. To continue to work on healthy aging - keep my independence, maintain my good health and keep and active, flexible body through the rest of my 60's and into the decades ahead.

2. To break the cycle of mindless, emotional eating and learn to eat to fuel my life while still enjoying cooking and eating good food.

3. I am tired of losing the same 20-35 pounds over and over again - I am ready to dig in and learn to lose it and keep it off for good.

Emotions:

1. Feeling physically sluggish, overfed ad disappointed with myself

2. Anxiety and ashamed of my appearance that I have gained back the weight I lost.

3. Sad and a bit depressed that a lot of my clothes do not fit well or fit at all right now.

Mindset:

1. I have a history of being focused on a program - doing great - losing the weight and then not finishing the job as I go back to old habits that got me there in the first place.

2. Fooling myself about how I look when I put on weight and then I just stop using the scale and looking in the mirror.

3. Procrastination about exercise and doing the things consistently that I know lead to success.

Body:

1. At the start of the Challenge I weighed 202 pounds (5'8" tall)

2. I have developed muscles and am strong and yet, I have too much body fat, especially in my belly - my waist is 40 inches. I want to see the muscles under this fat!

3. I have a round face and the beginning of a double chin.

I have been so nervous about uploading my before photos and I was not going to do it until later - I have now realized that this is the beginning and HUGE step in accountability.

Heart and Soul

Looking forward, 18 weeks from now, three changes I will have made that show I’m more aligned with what’s important to me at a heart and soul level are:

1. I will be real about my food intake and will be eating on schedule, 5 to 6 small, nutritious meals each day.

2. I will have a high level of enthusiasm and will be doing vigorous exercise for at least 20-30 minutes 6 days per week and strength training 2-3 days per week.

3. I will feel light, energetic and my clothes will fit me -

Emotions:

1. I will have tons of energy, feel self-confident and proud of my achievement

2. I will feel supported in my journey and will feel good that I have in turn supported others on their journey to better health and fitness

3. I will feel happy that I have met my goals and will be committed to continuing the journey.

Mindset

Three new patterns of thinking or beliefs which expand my ability to make healthy changes for the better will be:

1. I can overcome obstacles and meet my goals - I don't give up.

2. I will have stopped procrastinating and will have made time for me, my good health and fitness.

3. I am enough just as I am.

Body:

1. I will weigh 167 pounds

2. My waist will be under 35 inches.

3. My after photo will show a strong body will more muscle definition (especially in my abdomen - belly) and I will have a radiant smile.

Assignment #1 Worksheet: Where Are You Now? Where Are You Going? Thursday, January 27, 2011 17:35:27
Having looked inward to do some soul-searching, three heartfelt reasons for making the
decision to transform my health and life are:
1)I want to be able to have the confidence, the courage and the inner strength to be able to meet any challenge and to face the hurdles in life and people that would like to see me fail.

2)I want to not only have a healthy,strong and attractive body, but also I want a strong heart and peace of mind!

3)I want to be able to have a restful sleep and be able to wake up and greet the day no matter what kind of day it is and feel restful and have the energy to face whatever that day may throw at me. I am tired of being tired.

In recent days and weeks, the three most predominant inner feelings I have been
experiencing are:
1)I am ashamed and depressed at times because of the living situation and the condition I am in.

2)I worry lot and become depressed that I will spend the rest of my life alone!

3)Even though I know inside I am a good and nice person, I feel like I do not deserve to be happy!

Three patterns of thinking or beliefs which may have limited my ability to change in the
past are:
1)I am a unatractive man, I was not born with the genes to be an attractive man and there is nothing I can do about it.
2)I am not the physical fitness type and will never have the body and looks I dream of.
3)I will always be just "a nice guy" and A "Good Friend" I do believe when it comes to me Nice guys finish last and Once A Good Friend, Always just a good friend!!!!!

Three objectively verifiable statements which reflect my physical condition right now are:
1)My weight before I have eaten in the morning is 275 lbs. My waist is 42 inches.
2)My present physical condition is very evident in my before picture.
3)My bad posture and no smile, because of bad teeth and depression.

Assignment #1 Worksheet: Where Will You Be In 18 Weeks?
Looking forward, 18 weeks from now, three changes I will have made that show I’m more
aligned with what’s important to me at a heart and soul level are:
1)I will have the confidence, the courage and the inner strength to be able to meet any challenge and to face the hurdles in life and to face the people that would like to see me fail.
2)I will have a healthier,stronger and more attractive body. I also will have a stronger heart and peace of mind!
3)I will have a more restful sleep and be able to wake up and greet every day no matter what kind of day it is and have even more energy to face whatever the day may throw at me!!!! I will be totaly Energized!!!!
Looking forward, 18 weeks from now, the three most predominant inner feelings which
describe what I’ll be experiencing are:
1)I will be proud,more confident and a lot happier because my way of life, my living situation and my overall physical and emtional condition will be 100% better!!!!
2)I will not worry any more and will be more self confident, because I will have learned to love myself,respect myself and be true to myself so in turn others will see what a great person I am to be around and be with!!!!!
3)I will have a better understanding of who I am inside and out. I will not only learn that I do deserve to be happy, but also that I will be a lot happier!!!!!
Three new patterns of thinking or beliefs which expand my ability to make healthy
changes for the better will be:
1)I will learn and know that the true beauty of a person does not come from the outside, but from the inside and that those that can not see the beauty in another person and judge them because of how they look on the outside are Truly Blind!!!!
2)I will learn with the tools,knowledge and information that Bill Phillips has presented me with along with all the support and encouragement of the Transformation Community that I can be the physical type and have the body I have only dream about. Dreams can come true!!!!
3)I will learn that being a "Nice Guy" and A "Good Friend" is a Great thing and that "Nice Guys" do not have to finish last. The world sure can use a lot more of us around!!!!

Three objectively verifiable statements which will describe the new and improved
condition of my body 18 weeks from now are:
1)My weight within the 18 weeks before I eat in the morning will be 230 lbs. My waist will be 36.
2)The inprovement in my physical condition will be very evident in my after picture.
3)My bad posture will be history and in it's place I will have my shoulders back and my chest out. As for the smile, I will have a big one(not to sure about the condition of my teeth) but I will have a big smile anyway. The depression will be history to and in it's place a very energetic and happier person!!!!

William, I really enjoyed your Action Step! No doubt much feeling within and I love that you trusted us with your heart. Each step of Transformation develops our confidence and self-love and it is with confidence and self-love that we create the foundation to make ourselves even more loveable. I truly am excited for you to experience all that Transformation encompasses - your future just got a little brighter by taking this step! Your vision is clear and it will be yours if you stay connected, do the work, and trust the process!

Awesome job on your Action Step William! You will feel better & more confident-I am sure of it! I have only been doing it about a month & I feel good about myself for sticking with it and I think others can notice too because I am more outgoing than before & I am interacting more with people. So take it a day at a time & it will happen for you-we'll all be here for you too! Kathy

Thank you Carin and Kathy for the heartfelt encouragement and support! I feel that the BIGGEST Transformtion challenge for me will be on the Inside and Be just as BIG of a Challenge for me as the Transformation on the Outside and maybe BIGGER!!!!!! It will be 6 years this March 14 since the passing of my wife Martha, almost as long as we were married. I have come a long ways as far as dealing with her passing, but sometimes I still feel the pain as deep as I did when she passed away. I have other things to deal with such as lonliness, the fear of being alone the rest of my life and also the fear and uncertain feeling of where I will be in five years and what I will be doing, Not to mention the lack of confidence that I have in myslef. All these are the factors from losing my wife. When I was married I was happy and confident and had a sense of purpose and one of the most important and joyus purpose I had was Loving and Caring for my wife Martha! So I have a lot of work to do! I have not been as psyched about anything in long time as I am about Bill's Transformation Solution Program. I do not just want to do the Transformation Solution Program, I WANT TO WIN IT THE TRANSFORMATION SOLUTION!!!!!! Have A Blessed Day!!!!! William

William - I am so very sorry for the loss of your dear wife, Martha. Your Action Step #1 is just beautiful. Your honesty and courage are fierce and wonderful. I too am widowed. It was six years in November since my darling Tom died. I know first-hand - the journey is long and filled with pain, longing, loneliness and a million other really difficult emotions and situations.

I really love this program and this community. It is life changing. I hope you will call on me - I am here with you and we can do this together. Many big hugs to you ----- Suzann

William-I bet you CAN win-that would be really exciting for all of us! Keep checking in with everyone here, it's half the battle. Good things will come your way & the more confidence you build, you will be able to reach out more in your offline community too! Take care-Kathy

William.... wow. I think being so honest with yourself is the most important thing!! I am sure you are an amazing guy that has so much to share. Wishing you success on your journey. We can do this together.
~peace
Denise